Don’t be Harley Quinn
So after I saw Suicide Squad (which I cannot understand the vitriol surrounding this movie but that is for another time) and after I did I went to the internet to see what people thought of the movie and contribute my penny to the pond. One thing that really blew me away was the relationship between the clown prince of crime and his main squeeze.
Don’t get me wrong I thought it was a fair interpretation of what we saw on the animated series and in the comics but how girls (especially young impressionable girls) wished they had their “puddin” to hold them and make their world all belly rubs and rainbows.
Did we watch the same movie? Because if what they saw was a loving happy relationship then I weep for the future. Now of course these are as some would say “just comic characters” and it is “not that serious” but let’s dream up a scenario. If you had a daughter or a friend that was in a relationship with a sadistic asshole that demanded unquestionable loyalty to the point that it was dangerous for her, how would you react? Doesn’t that sound like what we don’t want our young women getting involved with? It is the classic troupe in romance “girls want the bad boy” but I had hoped that we had finally moved on and grown a little as a society.
The joker forces Harley to quit her career, start-up a life of crime and forget everything about the life she had to give herself over to him. And as a reward for all this devotion she is beaten given shock treatment, is driven insane and thrown if not forced to jump to what might possibly be her death. And this is the relationship that girls are wanting in their life, one in a series of many reasons why I did not get girls in high school. My point is to say that this isn’t love nor should it be interpreted as love, just another facet of the psychosis that is the joker. His masterpiece in the respect to his ability to break the human spirit.
Yes there were tender moments where it seemed like he truly did care for her. But to me it was the same as the abusive boyfriend that says “I’m sorry I just get so mad sometimes”. This push-pull with his affections or in some cases his conditional affections is no different that any other abusive boyfriend, this one just adds a bit of flair with it.
I had thought women were taught to be strong and independent and seek a man who supports her and cares for her. Two people who are strong but stronger when they are together.
If anything the relationship girls should clamor for is batman and catwoman, because she wants him but doesn’t need him. Catwoman has her own path and when it aligns with batman there isn’t a force alive that can take them down. However, she is independent enough to know when she has to go her own way. And batman, while emotionally distant I will grant you that, does care for her and you see it and he is far from abusive.
Girls go for the assholes I give you that but we need to help women find their voice. Every woman needs to find her inner catwoman and let her out to let the jokers of the world know they will not be held down.
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